Gooooo watch Captain Marvel, especially if you have little girls, and happy women’s day!

What a perfect day to write my first post of 2019 because today is 3/8 International Women’s Day! Let’s not get into the discussion on whether or not this is necessary/ gender equality etc. because that would take another million words. Let’s go back to this jaw dropping, humor packed heroine movie that is all about staying true to your values, believing in yourself, FORGIVING yourself and embracing friendship. To be honest, this applies to everyone, regardless of gender.

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My favorite quote by Captain Marvel was when she was being challenged, yet again by her male “mentor” to fight him without using her power to which she finally said, “I’ve got nothing to prove to you.” I’m sure I’m not the only one who constantly feels the need to excel and exceed expectation; to prove my worth that I deserve to be in such a place or given this opportunity since high school, college even throughout my career. This movie and a lot of personal experiences made me realized that I, myself, am the only person who THINKS that way. I am the one who constantly doubts myself and deems myself unfit for challenges.

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It is scientifically proven that females are more prone to imposter syndrome, perhaps it is because the way society was structured since the beginning of homo sapiens but I just want to say that EVERYONE feels that way at some point. By talking to more and more successful people that I look up to, I realized that we all feel a bit insecure, a bit out of place, a bit like “how does everyone’s insanely awesome work look so effortlessly done” from time to time.

Even the most experienced female leaders in multinational companies FEEL THAT WAY. It is ok to be uncertain and doubtful at times and that is not a sign of weakness. It just meant that you care about your growth and is conscious about your abilities. Often times I found that by doing your best, being genuine and open to feedback is the best anecdote 🙂 Of course our ability is limited to certain extent, but if you have never taken a leap of faith and given your very best, how could you know what your best self looks like?

That’s why in the end Captain Marvel can fly and single handedly DESTROY spaceships; she finally believed in herself and broke out of the shackles formed by others’ opinions. She is flawed, but by acknowledging it, it makes her invincible. She stood up against non-believers and challengers again and again because every time you get up, you are stronger.

What I also ABSOLUTELY LOVE about this movie is that there is a strong emphasis on friendship. Even in the days when you have lost faith in yourself (because it happens!), that you felt like you’re not up for the next challenge, that you’re simply not good enough, it works wonders to have a friend or two (I am very lucky and grateful to have more than that, in various timezones 😉 who could shake you up and remind you how much you’ve accomplished so far and how marvelous you are as a human being. We all forget about that sometimes. I love how the story puts these two female roles in the Air Force where they could only fly experimental planes because the law back then didn’t allow women to fly on mission. I love that not only are they fighting gender equality back then but also racism; Captain Marvel’s best friend is black, and a wonderful mother and role model to her daughter.

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So I’m sorry Cap and Thor, who used to be my favorite for their amazing leadership and OP skills (that act he pulled on Nidavellir?!), Captain Marvel has easily replaced them. This then got me thinking, how can any girl look up to a role model, if she has never seen one before? How do they know, oh I can become so and so if they’ve never known a real life example? Indeed, Gal Gadot was amazing. In Wonder Woman she had inspired many young girls around the world that not only men can be powerful and badass! But beyond “superhero” industry (since it is a very limited and imaginary one), how often do you see a female exemplar in say Engineering, Politics, Medicine, Aviation (Amelia 😛 but that’s it!) let’s not forget that this movie, is also the first female directed Marvel movie, out of 21.

I’m sure you can name a few, but the real question is, if you were to think of the male counterparts of these industries, I’m sure there are TOO many for you to even begin. It is undeniable that a lot of work still needs to be done in all too many industries.

According to dictionary, a heroine is a woman admired for her courage, outstanding achievements or noble qualities. So to all accomplished women out there, I want to echo Lean In (by Sheryl Sandberg) that you are the role model that younger girls look up to, and you’ve already got what it takes to be their heroine. I also sincerely hope that one day, I can become the heroine that my 16 year old self would look up to.

p.s. I was a bit skeptical at first because I’ve been overwhelmed by the many Marvel movies and Brie Larson isn’t really my type but I must admit that it is complete prejudice, and I absolutely adore this character and how she portrayed her flaws, humors, her tremendous courage and faith. Captain America may be the first Avenger, but Captain Marvel is the PERSON who inspired the team name Avengers 😉 who also happens to be a woman : ) 

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I’m obsessed with La La Land not only because I’m a musical lover, but…

I’m obsessed with La La Land not only because I’m a musical lover, but…

As if the movie itself isn’t great enough, the apt timing it premiered makes me anticipate my soon to come LA trip even more! I’m already itching to trace the footsteps of Mia and Sebastian.
img_6046The last time I felt compelled to write down my thoughts post movie was Begin Again, and that was probably 2-3 years ago. La La land was so delightful that I watched it twice in the theatre (still planning to go again if I have the time) and looped its OST hundreds of times and counting. The first time I watched it, the movie struck me by the glamour of its tap dances and songs (I mean who doesn’t love a cheerful musical?), the costumes and the wonderfully crafted ending (some hated the ending I know, but for me, it is precisely the ending that furthered my obsession of the movie even more). The second time, I’m less distracted by the joyful songs and dances; I could finally notice the subtle details in the way the lead characters interact (I totally get why they won best actor/actress) and the beautiful cinematography left me in awe again. The scene in the Planetarium is just breathtakingly absurd yet hopelessly romantic at the same time. Those dancing silhouettes are so beautiful it gave me goosebumps. The blend of mellow colors, sparkling lights and the splash of sharp vibrant colors contrasted so well it’s just pure pleasure to the eyes.

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One of my favorite song is “Another Day of Sun”. The melody simply gets you grooving in your seat! The opening scene demonstrated the essence of American culture, colorful people (both in their costumes and skin color) jamming in all sorts of dances: Hispanic in flamenco, Africans joining in hip hop and break dance, Asians in acrobatics; even the slow motion scene of “Someone in the crowd” paired up cross-racial actors deliberately. The brilliant thing is despite these differences in exterior, they are very likely all Americans. This vibrant clash of cultures is exactly what made America such a unique place; it’s full of conflicts and compromises.. just like Jazz! To me, this is the most brutal irony under the current situation in the US. Anyways that’s too depressing to get into so let’s move on to the characters.

“Here’s to the ones who dreamed, foolish as they may seem”

It is such a cliché that those who chase after their dreams always face numerous failures, countless hurdles and huge buckets of freezing cold water pouring down their heads. Let’s not forget that every single chorus actor in the movie is yet another Mia praying for their own “audition” for Paris.

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But if you think about it, even if you’re just living your day-to-day modest and boring life, struggling to make ends meet; it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re free from rejections and self-doubts. And if that is so, we might as well spend our time on things that actually matter instead of churning money for big corporations right?

“Somewhere there’s a place where I find who I’m gonna be, a somewhere that’s just waiting to be found”

To me the difficult part is finding a passion to truly seek after; that’s why dreamers and believers are always my favorite people. It breaks my heart to see them fail, again and again, yet it still inspires me every time they dust themselves off and get at it again. But just like the way Mia and Sebastian helped each other through their toughest time, this whole process is rarely done alone. Without her, he wouldn’t have put down his artist pride and stubbornness to eventually gain the capital and reputation to open his own Jazz bar; without him, well obviously she wouldn’t even make it to the audition that eventually made her famous. Neither of them could have done it alone.img_2727

“A voice that says, I’ll be here, and you’ll be alright”

Sometimes all you need is someone to believe in you, to look you in the eye, and convince you that you are good enough, you can do it. So you can zip up those muffin tops, take a deep breath, flex your muscle and take a leap of faith. There is never guarantee to success, but the magic and purpose must be in the attempt. That’s why I loved the ending. Everyone enters your life for a reason, and for those who exit, they must have left for a better one. What more can you ask for when you’ve already had the best ride together growing alongside each other? To me, Mia and Sebastian has completed their roles in each other’s life and when that’s done, it’s only inevitable that they must go on with their own lives, following their separate dreams and eventually fade out from each other.

Thanks Damien, for this romantic movie just cured my heart. I think this will continue to be my favorite movie for a while.

“Is this the start of something wonderful and new? Or one more dream that I cannot make true?”

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p.s. I’ve read an opinion somewhere that coined Mia as the typical selfish girlfriend who jumped from men to men…well I viewed it differently. The way Sebastian assumed Mia would follow him on his tour while her performance is 2 weeks away is downright selfish. The way he missed her play is yet another proof. The way she got pushed away by the crowd during his first gig is a metaphor on how he is becoming someone she no longer understands. The final straw is when he thought she wasn’t genuinely happy for his success… what kind of self absorbed lunatic would think their loved one could be jealous of themselves? I’m not saying Mia isn’t selfish because the absolute truth is that human beings are all selfish; I think love is just a by-product when that selfishness somehow happens to benefit someone else too. (Since this thought seems a bit dark I’ll just keep it at the very end :P)

What is a better city than New York to be lonely in? (Begin Again)

What is a better city than New York to be lonely in? (Begin Again)

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Although it had been a year or so since I was last in New York, Begin Again brought back so many electrifying images in my head. There is a strange sense of familiarity when I was watching the movie. Brooklyn, Washington Square, Central Park, China Town, EMPIRE STATE BUILDING AND TIME SQUARE!

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I know I know, it makes me sound like a pathetic small town girl, overwhelmed by the flickering lights of Time Square, but the truth is, tall modern buildings and urban skylines are not foreign to me. Being born and raised in an international city (Hong Kong.), I’m not new to fast-paced urban lives. But to me, having been to New York twice for a substantial time, it has occupied a special place in my heart, as the one and only metropolitan.

 

There is something about it that you can’t find elsewhere, Tokyo, Paris, Seoul, Manila, HONG KONG… no, New York is special. It is lined with gold and glittering light bulbs. It is rough and delicate. It is rugged and posh. It is violent yet elegant. It is imperfect but complete. It smells awful but the air is intoxicating. It is the home of hobos and jobless people; and the land of promises, of dreams coming true. As if New York itself is a rusted paradox.

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I loved every bits of its uncivilized subway, even the human poop (don’t ask why I knew it wasn’t dog shit) in it. I loved walking on the streets of Manhattan all by myself, slightly frozen yet still striding forward. And that all I had was just me and my music and my solitude. I miss that feeling of having a free heart and open mind; fearless and hopeful.

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To anyone who has ever been lonely in a city

a) some things are meant to be kept between yourself; things that only you would understand and appreciate. Things that you should never stop doing.

b) being with someone doesn’t mean you won’t feel lonely anymore and that’s perfectly fine.

c) everyone needs their own purpose in life.

d) in case of depression, just keep walking.

Because a city as big is capable of containing your insignificant sorrows. Let the darkness absorb all your troubles and surrender to the chaos of urban lives.

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And back to the movie, I enjoyed the soothing music, Kiera’s fashion style and the fact that the male and female leads had pure friendship. The movie was about second chances, something that I am learning in the hardest way possible. Of course it was about Adam Levine’s singing too 😉

Simply put, watching this movie alone in a row of seats in the cinema all to myself at 9:30 am before work, is one of the best decisions I have made lately.

p.s. I wonder if new yorkers ACTUALLY realize how lucky they are to be living in such a gorgeous city.